Reflecting on your subjective reality
Would you prefer to defend, harm, praise, or reflect on yourself?
Think about it… When you do something wrong according to your standards, do you defend yourself and just say something like: “I’m not like that, this would never happen again”, and then you move on with your life; or maybe you criticize yourself and say “I’m the worst person in the world, how could I do this”? “I suck”?
Now, if you do something good, Do you usually praise yourself and say: “Yeah! I’m the best! There’s no one smarter than me!”? To me, none of these forms of rationalization are beneficial in the long term. Self-defense closes you up. Self-harm, well… harms you. Self-praise, although it may feel good, could also close you up to new learning experiences because you may think you already know everything you need to know. In simple words, any of these rationalizations won’t change yourself meaningfully and could even potentially backfire in the long term.However, ¿What if you are able to confront yourself? Reflective confrontation is what brings growth and change to ourselves: you just need to reflect and argue more with yourself and also other people . I want you to expose and confront your current values: “Am I living my life for myself, my family, or other people? Which one is more important to me? “Is this what I really want for my life”?
In the process of self-exploration or reflection, you need to be both concepts: selfish and selfless . You need to be selfish because you need to think about your passion and your own path; but at the same time, you have to be selfless because your passion should also benefit other people. If your passion only benefits you, you are just being selfish, if your passion benefits only others, you will end blaming others for your circumstances. If you have both, you will therefore find balance.
This is a call for reflective action; a call to ask yourself about who you are and the situation you are experiencing. To struggle with life but then do your best to overcome any obstacle. At least you’d know that you tried and you reflected on your last experience, on who you are, and who you want to become. You’ll explore yourself and the situation you just experienced—what did I talk with these people? ¿What impression do I have of the other people and of myself? ¿What impression do the other people have of me? ¿Am I taking care of myself and the people that I care about? ¿Is someone going through a difficult situation?. No one can take these reflections away from you. And of course, you don’t have to ask yourself all these questions. Usually, they’ll just pop up as you continue thinking of yourself and your environment.
A valuable and useful sense of liberty and morality can only be achieved by those who dare to know. To know more about themselves and the situation. To continue learning and growing every day. It doesn’t matter on what you focus your energy, as long as it has meaning to you.
By: Juan P. Ospina